No Is The New Yes

Mapping a path through several greens with flags saying noDo you ever wonder if “no” has an identity complex.

There’s three strikes against it.

First, it’s a short word.

Second, it’s quite unassuming and doesn’t stand out above or below the crowd.

Third, everybody tries to avoid it like the plague.

So much so, new ideas aren’t tried, risks taken or permission asked for fear of being shot down.

Begging forgiveness afterwards is considered a better alternative.

A single no can cut through a thousand yeses like a hot knife through butter.


How lonely no must be.

Sad, really, at how it’s so misunderstood.

Nobody wants to know what no is willing to share.

The power of clarity and affirmation of self.

Precisely what yes is!


No wants to tell the world how elusive yes is.

People wait and wait and wait and wait until they can see the whole picture, or at least enough of it, to say “yes, that’s it!” before taking a step.

That can end up being a very long time.

Sometimes a lifetime.


But with no on your side, moving towards clarity begins right away.

Every time you identify what you don’t want, three things happen:

  1. The unknown grows smaller, because now you know something,
  2. You know what ground you don’t have to cover again, and
  3. You can push off of that no towards what you do want

Rinse and repeat.

With each successive no, that elusive yes is revealed a little bit more.


Sure, the path is a bit longer.

It certainly isn’t a straight line.

(What really is?)

But, at least you’re getting to know a lot more about yourself.

Beats waiting around for everything perfectly in place to show up.


Sort of goes hand in hand with learning from our mistakes.

You have to look at what happened in order to make course corrections necessary to succeed.

How often does the direct path to success get examined for what worked and what was avoided?

Not very.

The information is there, but we don’t give successes and saying yeses the same attention as we do poor little no.


No wants to shout from the mountain top it is powerful and empowering.

Every time you say no to one thing, you’re saying yes to something else.

It doesn’t have to be a big hell Yes! to have an impact.

Saying no to what you don’t want means you have even the tiniest smidgen of clarity about what you do.

Saying no is telling the world who you are and who you are not.


You don’t have to wait around anymore to say yes!

Embrace the power of no and start finding the clarity you seek now.


Let’s show no a little love and it doesn’t need to be lonely anymore.

Share a story of when saying no felt really good or a number of nos helped you see what you wanted.

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Not quite a crazy cat lady (yet?) – Lorraine’s insatiable curiosity of life leads her to explore, question and push beyond the box. A self-professed “left-brained creative big picture idea” type, she has an intuitive knack for seeing possibility everywhere and in everyone, and is a moth-to-flame for being part of making that possibility come true.

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